Paul Eres ([info]rinku) wrote,
@ 2008-07-31 04:11:00
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Entry tags:games, psychology

"Most games, in one way or another, but always in an easily understood way, model life itself. Naturally, each era is reflected in its most popular games and toys." - Boris Nikitin

Nikitin was a "professional father" who wrote a book on how he raised his seven children; this was disliked by the USSR and his family was prosecuted, although his books sold well in Japan and Germany.

I came across an article about him today in Inward Path, a "Russian Magazine for Human Development", from February 1992.

Some of his advice to parents are: never give bedtimes or regular meal times, let children eat and sleep whenever they want. Begin teaching children to walk early (studies have shown that if taught to walk systematically children, can learn to walk by 6 to 7 months, otherwise they may take until 12 months or more if not specifically taught). This also goes for teaching them to sit up and to crawl. Give them lots of sports and games and toys, but be selective and careful about which you choose, because those things are powerful. But let them choose when or if they play with those things, don't force them to (that also goes for teaching them to walk -- do it in a playful way that makes them want to learn, and don't force it when they don't want to). Have your children sleep with you in the same bed until they are around five years old.

Don't treat them as delicate, but realize that they are hardy and can handle minor injuries and extremes of cold and heat just as well as adults can, if not better. Their 3-year-old (note: 3-year-old) could run 2 miles as exercise, and jump down to the floor from on top of a table. At five years old they could join their parents in hiking 12-15 miles, carrying backpacks. Their five-year-old daughter could lift a weight 1.5 times heavier than herself off the floor. Before they were three, they could read, name most of the countries on the world map, and solve mathematical problems. This is likely not through any special genetics, but just through teaching and training, because some of their methods were adopted in preschools in Japan to similar results.

Unfortunately his work is unknown today and it's virtually impossible to get a copy of his books, as I don't believe it was ever translated into English, and the only thing I could find on eBay is this, and I don't know Russian (although I could always give it to my father to translate or something). One is a book on games he invented to help his children's intellectual development, although some of those games are described here too (.RTF file).

Anyway, I'll be sure to read them before I have children if I ever do, because these methods appeal to me.



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[info]jsangspar
2008-07-31 03:13 pm UTC (link)
Just because a Russian man wrote it on paper doesn't mean it's entirely true.

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[info]rinku
2008-07-31 03:15 pm UTC (link)
What in specific isn't true?

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[info]jsangspar
2008-07-31 03:40 pm UTC (link)
I can't say, but everything in general sounds unlikely. You're a very gullible person.

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[info]rinku
2008-07-31 04:13 pm UTC (link)
Hahaha, so basically you have no point except to hurl abuse? You must be in a bad mood.

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[info]harlockhero
2008-08-01 03:24 pm UTC (link)
If you manage to find these ever, definitely send them to me. Most of the advice mentioned in the entry lines up with my own intuitive notions of child-raising, which is interesting.

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(Anonymous)
2008-08-01 05:19 pm UTC (link)
I want to homeschool my children, but my wife thinks it's "weird" and even my family sides with her. I haven't given up on convincing her but it's an uphill battle. Our culture does view homeschooling with suspicion and that alone has a powerful influence on people who have not studied the issue. Nobody wants his/her child to be ostracized. I remember reading, several years ago, about a public school that conducted an emergency evacuation drill. The hypothetical scenario for the drill was that homeschooling parents who hated public schools were trying to blow up the school building. Subtle, huh?

I really believe that (as indicated by Mr. Nikitin's experiences) children are stunted, intellectually and emotionally, by schooling. If you think about it, a school is psychologically a very unhealthy place. It is basically a prison. The adults are the prison wardens and guards, and the children are the inmates. Instead of thinking of themselves as part of the same society in which adults exist, the children come to think of themselves as being a separate class of humans. They learn to act the part of a child, i.e. one who is irresponsible and incapable of taking care of himself. They even form into the equivalent of prison gangs.

This lays the psychological groundwork for their later participation in politics: as parts of "voting blocs" or "interest groups" lobbying for handouts from the government; and as serfs obeying orders from the bureaucrats and generals.

Wouldn't it be much better for a child to grow up and learn in the presence of family and friends, to be treated as an equal without having to deal with arbitrary rules ("May I pleassse go to the bathroom?"), forced association with strangers, bullying and the like? Not to mention the declining academic standards of government schools, and all the idiotic propaganda that figures into the curriculum.

At least my wife wants to send our kids to a private school. I know, that's not much better than a government school but I'll take what I can get.

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